Take this quiz to help you evaluate your family’s stress level.
Score 0 if the statement is never true for your family, 1 if it’s rarely true, 2 if it’s sometimes true, and 3 if it’s always true.
3- Always True
|1||We often talk about our feelings.|
|2||It seems like we argue a lot.|
|3||I know what’s important to my kids.|
|4||(For couples) Sometimes marriage is disappointing.|
|5||(For single parents) The kids like my choice of dates.|
|6||The kids get upset that we argue.|
|7||We have enough money for the important things.|
|8||We have conflicts about how much to spend and on what.|
|9||Work is important, but family is our top priority.|
|10||We don’t listen enough.|
|11||(For couples) our relationship is strong.|
|12||(For single parents) My kids are upset when I date.|
|13||(For couples) We both feel good about our roles as parents.|
|14||It seems as if someone’s always mad at someone else.|
|15||(For single parents) The kids like my choice of dates.|
|16||Too much work is getting to me.|
|17||Tension in our house is rare.|
|18||(For single parents) Being single has been very hard for me.|
|19||The kids are doing well in school.|
|20||There’s never enough time.|
|21||Everyone in the family has a job, and does it without being nagged.|
|22||(For couples) We argue about who should do what with the kids.|
|23||We eat together every day.|
|24||It’s impossible to get the kids to do anything around here.|
|25||Vacations together turn out well.|
|26||I’ve been called in to school to discuss my child’s behavior.|
Total Odd Score: ______
Total Even Score: ______
To score: Total your scores for odd-numbered questions and even-numbered questions separately. Your goal is to have a high odd score and a low even score. Both are positive signs of your family’s stress skills.
What Your Scores Mean
For scores of 33 and above (odd) or 17 and less (even): Congratulations! Your family has good skills and attitudes which help you handle life’s stresses. This makes your home life rich and satisfying.
25-32 (odd) or 18-24 (even): You have a strong start. Try practicing your good skills and positive attitudes more, to create even more harmony at home.
18-24 (odd) or 25-32 (even): You’re probably under many stresses. Look carefully at these questions and think about ways to improve your score. Remember: it’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help.
17 and less (odd) or 33 and above (even): Taking action now is very important for your family’s health and happiness. Reach out to friends, family or professional help for a great boost when times are tough.