Get a Handle on Your Inner Critic

How we feel about ourselves depends to a surprising extent on self-talk, the never-ending commentary that goes on in our heads about what we do, think, feel and say.

Much of this self-talk is negative, the voice of a “critical parent” that is often much more negative than our actual parents ever were.

The first step in unhooking ourselves from this inner critic is to simply become aware of it.

If you were as perfect as you want to be, how would you describe yourself? Using 10 words or less, write statement that describes your ideal. (Print this page and record your statement.) Perhaps you would say, “I am a beautiful, loving and valuable person. We’ll call this statement an “affirmation.”

What did your inner critic say when you wrote your affirmation? Write that criticism in the right column. Now write your affirmation again, listening for the voice of the inner critic and writing that down in the right column. Do this 10 times.

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You may be surprised at how negative your “critic” can be. Take the worst comment and turn it around: For instance, if it says “You’re stupid and wrong,” write “I’m brilliant and right.” Pick three or four of your negative phrases and turn them into affirmations.

Choose the affirmation you like the most and carefully letter it in the space below.

Cut it out and tape it on your bathroom mirror, your refrigerator or your workspace.

 

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