Changing Your Self Talk

In many situations, the only thing we can control is our own response. Changing self-talk from negative to positive is an excellent way to manage that response and stress.


  • We all name our experiences. “Crisis,” “bad as usual,” “a great challenge” are names you might give to things that happen.
  • Pick a recent upsetting experience. Describe it in a few words.
  • Is there a positive name you could give it? (learning experience, chance to change, etc.)
  • List the names you gave to five recent experiences, good or bad.
  • If they happened to someone else, what other positive names could you give them?

Letting Go

  • You often must let go of dreams, people or parts of your life. Letting go allows you to get on with your life when something is over.
  • Write down two things you need to let go of.
  • Imagine that each one is really going out of your life. How do you feel? (sad, angry, relieved, etc.)
  • Who can you tell about your feeling?
  • What advice would you give to someone who is in your situation?

Belief and Faith

  • Self-talk reflects our belief in who we are or in the universe. A positive faith can help you during stressful times.
  • Name 10 positive things you believe in about yourself people or the universe. If you can’t think of 10 beliefs, ask other people for theirs. Use affirmations.
  • Describe a recent experience and how you used one of these beliefs to help you.

Silent Support

  • We all have a constant stream of silent talk in our minds. This can be a great support, or a weight on our shoulders.
  • Close your eyes. What is your silent talk saying right now?
  • Write three negative messages you often hear.
  • Write their opposites as positive messages.

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