The grief that comes with divorce is inevitable. Even if the marriage was destructive, leaving behind what is familiar and venturing into the unknown is frightening. Divorce can bring about both emotional and physical stresses. Here are some tips to help you deal with them.
REACH OUT TO OTHER PEOPLE
Friends, relatives, therapists and support groups can offer a great deal of support. Don’t cut yourself off from the people who care about you.
RECOGNIZE YOUR FEELINGS, GOOD AND BAD
Loneliness, frustration and fear are all a part of the normal coping process. Find constructive outlets for these feelings. Exercise vigorously and join a support group or club. Don’t be afraid to cry, yell or scream if you need to. You may also want to put your feelings down on paper.
TRY NEW ACTIVITIES
Try something you’ve always wanted to do such as learning how to windsurf or oil paint. New activities take a lot of concentration and will take your mind off your problems. Through new hobbies you may also meet new people and make new friends. New friends who didn’t know you when you were married can give you a fresh perspective.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Exercise regularly and eat nutritious, well-balanced meals. Avoid drinking, eating or smoking in excess, it will only add to your problems. Enjoy long, hot baths or showers and take long walks to clear your thoughts and help you relax.